Wedding Invitation Wording Guide

Getting the wording together for your wedding invitations can seem like a daunting task, but it doesn’t have to be. Below is a guide on what information to put into your invitations, what can go on separate cards, and some etiquette points along the way.

Who is listed first on the invitation?

Typically the person who is hosting (or paying for) the wedding is listed first, whether it be the brides parents, the grooms parents or both sets. In a situation where the couple is paying for the wedding (which is becoming more common), this section can be left out but you may want to discuss the wording with your families.

Is it the bride or the groom who is named first?

Etiquette requests that the bride is named first in the invitation, followed by the groom. You may wish to place “and” or “to” between the names, depending on the wording prior.

The inviting request wording

  • “Request the pleasure of your company“ is used when the ceremony is located at a civil venue, such as in gardens, at a gallery or at your home.
  • “Request the honor of your presence” is used when the ceremony is located at a religious venue, such as a church.


Ensure to list as much detail as possible about venue locations and start times. It is also worth explaining what type of reception is going to be held, whether it will be a formal dinner, a cocktail party, or something else. How this section is written will vary greatly depending on whether you have separate ceremony and reception venues, or if your entire day will be in the one location.

If any of your venues are not well known, or hidden away, it is recommended to include a directions card, which may also include a small map. This can also be helpful to out-of-town guests who may not be familiar with the location.

Dates, times and addresses

Traditionally, dates and times are spelled out (eg. Saturday the Fourteenth of February, Two Thousand and Fourteen), but space can sometimes be limited on invitations. Using numbers instead is fine, but always make sure to keep the wording or numbering style consistent throughout your invitation (this includes additional information cards).

Addresses should have all usual abbreviations spelled out (eg. St should be Street), and postcodes are not required to be listed.

Dress code

It is always useful to your guests to include a dress code, so they know what is expected. It will also help you when it comes to photos of your day with your guests knowing what attire to appear in.


The RSVP information should be placed at the bottom of your invitation.

We recommend listing an RSVP date approximately 1 month prior to your wedding. This gives you time to chase up those few who may be late to reply, along with letting your venue and caterers know your final numbers. You may want to include a phone number or email address for RSVPs, but we recommend including a separate RSVP postcard as this allows you to collect important information about your guests. An RSVP card can ensure you know exactly how many from each family are attending, if they have any dietary requirements, and any additional information you may want to ask (eg. a song request for the reception).

Additional Information

Not all information will fit, or should be placed, onto the invitation. The invitation is to extend a request out to your guests to attend, and nothing more. But we all know that weddings tend to include a lot more detail that you might want to let your guests know about.

Here are a few suggestions of information that can be placed on separate cards to add to your invitation suite:

  • Wishing Well/Gift Registry
  • Wet weather contingency plan
  • Directions, maps and parking
  • Accommodation
  • Organised transport
  • Other events (eg. rehearsal dinner, after party, group breakfast)
  • Wedding website information

And don’t forget that we’re here to help you with your wording when you order invitations through us!